If you cannot submit, be transparent, or be accountable to your spouse, then quite frankly, you had no business getting married in the first place. Marriage is not a playground for selfish people or those who want to live like they’re still single. It is a covenant of unity, not individualism.

Being married means your life is no longer just your own. Your decisions, your finances, your movements, your associations, all of it should be open to your spouse. If you’re hiding things, keeping secrets, or saying “it’s none of your business” to your partner, then you’re acting like a child, not a spouse. That’s not independence, that’s immaturity and pride.

Accountability in marriage is not a suggestion, it is a requirement. Every married person ought to be fully accountable in their finances, communication, time, friendships, and overall conduct. You don't get to do whatever you want just because you don't feel like explaining yourself. That’s how you ruin trust and slowly tear down your own home.

You can’t be married and still behave like you’re single. You didn’t make vows to live parallel lives, you made vows to become one. That “oneness” demands accountability, honesty, and openness. Marriage that lacks accountability becomes chaotic, suspicious, and emotionally draining. There will be no peace. There will be no order. Just Mungulufye Wekaweka, everyone doing their own thing, and nothing works.

So let’s be clear: if you’re allergic to accountability, you’re not ready for marriage. You’re ready for situationships, sneaky links, and confusion, but not for marriage. Marriage is for grown-ups who are willing to be seen, heard, corrected, and held responsible. Embrace accountability or stay single, there is no middle ground.