Navigating love and relationships can be tricky — especially when the wrong person wears the right mask. These seven red flags are essential signs that you’re likely dealing with the wrong guy. If you’re serious about your peace, purpose, and future, read carefully:

 

1. He Can’t Delay Gratification

 

If he wants everything now — sex, loyalty, total attention — even before commitment or marriage, be cautious.

He may:

• Pressure you for sex early

• Disrespect your values or boundaries

• Show extreme jealousy

• Try to isolate you from family and friends

 

This is control, not love.

2. He’s Not Transparent

 

If he avoids talking about:

• Past relationships

• Emotional or financial struggles

• Failures and weaknesses

 

…and always tries to look perfect, he’s likely hiding something.

True love requires truth — and relationships don’t grow in silence and secrecy.

3. He Avoids Responsibility

 

A man who blames:

• His parents

• His exes

• His boss

• Even God…

 

…for everything wrong in his life is emotionally immature. If he can’t take responsibility for himself, he won’t take responsibility in marriage.

4. He’s a Fault-Finder or Perfectionist

 

If nothing you do is ever right, and he:

• Criticizes every little thing

• Rarely affirms you

• Expects perfection from you but never from himself

 

Then he’s not building you — he’s breaking you. Don’t hand your heart to someone who can’t handle your humanity.