1. REFUSING TO INITIATE INTIMACY

You’ll hit him up fast when you need money, but when was the last time you said, “Baby, I want some sugar cane tonight…”?

Ladies, be bold! Touch, whisper, tease — bring the heat! Don’t just be his ATM; be his lover, the spark, the woman who starts the fire. Be involved before, during, and after. Dry spells? Not in your house!

 

2. BEDROOM SHYNESS IS SO 1960!

Stop acting like your body is classified info! Switch on the light, dance naked, tease him anytime — even while he’s watching football or reading the paper. Surprise touches and little flashes keep desire alive. Remember, he married you, not a mystery.

 

3. SILENT NIGHT? THIS AIN’T CHRISTMAS!

Moan, talk, scream—make your pleasure audible! Dirty talk spices up intimacy and gives him feedback. Don’t turn the bedroom into a quiet zone. Let him know he’s doing well or if he needs to step it up!

 

4. “HE HASN’T TOUCHED ME IN 3 MONTHS” IS NOT A TROPHY

That’s a red flag, sis! Don’t celebrate neglect. Touch him, talk to him, ask questions—keep the connection alive. Your intimacy is a two-way street; don’t let it go cold without addressing why.

 

5. SEX IS NOT A PUNISHMENT TOOL

Don’t withhold sex to punish or “teach him a lesson.” That only builds walls. Talk about your feelings, forgive fast, and keep the physical connection alive. Your body belongs to both of you — don’t weaponize it.

 

6. AVOID USING FASTING AS AN EXCUSE

If you’re fasting, good for you! But communicate with your husband. Fasting doesn’t mean total shutdown—discuss boundaries and times. According to 1 Corinthians 7:5, you need consent and conversation. Find ways to stay close, even in fasting.

7. IS YOUR BED GREEN, YELLOW, RED OR BROWN?

• Green: Active, spicy, happy, God-blessed bed.

• Yellow: Hubby begging for intimacy like a job seeker—warning signs!

• Red: No intimacy; the bedroom feels like a museum.

• Brown: Infidelity zone.

Keep your bed GREEN — faithful, hot, fun, and full of love.

Bottom line: Keep it warm, keep it real, and never let the spark die. Your marriage deserves that kind of fire! 🔥💃🛏️