Let’s face it, relationships can be tricky. One minute, everything seems great, and the next, you’re wondering if the person you’re with is really in it for the long haul or just stringing you along. If you’ve ever found yourself questioning where things are headed, you’re not alone. Here are some signs that a guy or girl might just be wasting your time:

 

1. They’re Hot and Cold with  Communication

Ever notice how some days they’re all over you with texts and calls, but then they disappear for days without a word? If they’re only hitting you up when it’s convenient for them, that’s a pretty big red flag. Someone who’s genuinely into you will make an effort to stay in touch regularly, not just when they feel like it.

2. You’re Always the One Making Plans

If you’re the one always coming up with ideas for dates or things to do, and they’re just going along for the ride, it might be a sign they’re not that invested. A person who’s serious about you will want to take the initiative sometimes, too. It’s about sharing the effort.

3. They Dodge the “Where Is This Going?” Talk

Bringing up the future can be scary, but if your partner consistently avoids talking about what’s next for the two of you, it’s worth considering why. Sure, not everyone wants to rush into labels, but if they’re constantly side-stepping the conversation, it could be a sign they’re not planning on sticking around.

4. They Keep You at Arm’s Length

Do they avoid deep conversations or keep their emotions locked up? If they’re not letting you in emotionally, it might be because they’re not ready—or willing—to get serious. Emotional distance is a pretty clear signal that they’re not as invested as you might hope.

5. They Make Promises But Don’t Deliver

If they’re always saying they’ll do something but never actually follow through, it’s time to take note. Broken promises aren’t just disappointing—they’re a sign of disrespect for your time and feelings. Actions speak louder than words, after all.

6. You’re Not a Priority

If everything else—work, friends, hobbies—seems to come before you, it might be time to reassess the relationship. In a healthy partnership, both people make time for each other, even when life gets busy. If you’re feeling like an afterthought, you probably are.

7. They’re Still Flirting with Others

No one wants to feel like they’re just an option. If they’re still flirting with other people or keeping their options open, it’s a sign they’re not fully committed to you. You deserve someone who’s all in, not someone who’s still looking around.

8. They’re Always “Too Busy”

Sure, everyone has a busy schedule, but if your partner is constantly too busy to hang out, that’s a problem. People make time for what’s important to them, and if they’re not making time for you, it’s worth asking yourself why.

9. They’re Not Interested in Your Life

A partner who’s really into you will want to know about your day, your dreams, your worries—all of it. If they’re not asking or seem disinterested when you share, it could be a sign they’re not as invested as they should be.

10. The Relationship Isn’t Growing

Relationships should help both people grow. If you feel like things are just stuck or going nowhere, it could be because your partner isn’t putting in the effort to move forward together. Growth is a sign of a healthy relationship—without it, things can get stale fast.