Grammy-winning Nigerian singer Tems has shared her thoughts on toxic relationships, offering a reflective perspective on the nature of love and emotional awareness.

 

According to the artist, many people have encountered relationships where their partners exhibit toxic behaviors without even realizing it.

 

“I feel like everyone has experienced that toxic love with someone that doesn’t even know that they’re toxic,” she said, explaining that such individuals may genuinely believe they are expressing love, despite the negative emotional impact of their actions.

 

Tems emphasized the importance of self-love as a foundation for healthy relationships, suggesting that a lack of self-awareness can distort one’s understanding of love.

 

“They say I love you, I love you, but they don’t know that they don’t even love you because you can’t love someone if you don’t love yourself,” she noted.

 

She further explained that what is often perceived as love may actually be emotional dependence rather than genuine affection.

 

“I feel like it’s more like they need you or something about you makes them feel a way about themselves,” she said, describing such emotions as temporary and rooted in personal insecurity.

 

Highlighting her definition of real love, the singer stressed that true affection is enduring and not based on fleeting feelings.

 

“Love is not a fleeting feeling,” she stated, underscoring her belief that genuine love is stable and lasting.

 

Tems concluded by encouraging open communication and reflection in relationships, suggesting that recognizing toxic patterns can create opportunities for growth and understanding.

 

“Sometimes, you actually speak to them and see how they’re doing,” she added.

 

Her comments have resonated with fans, sparking conversations online about emotional maturity, self-awareness, and what it truly means to love and be loved.