1. Never insult your spouse or address your spouse using curse words

2. Use courteous words: Please, thank you

3. Never hang up a phone conversation with your spouse in the middle of your spouse talking

4. Don't physically abuse your spouse

5. Keep your spouse's secrets between you two. Cover your spouse

6. Never address your wife as "Woman"

7. Never pick up fights with your spouse in front of the child/children 

8. Don't quarrel with your spouse in public

9. Ask for your spouse's opinion. It makes your spouse feel engaged and involved

10. Before you change a decision or plan you agreed with your spouse, inform your spouse

11. Don't use sex as a weapon to get back at your spouse

12. Give your spouse eye contact when he/she is talking

13. Do not flirt with others

14. Don't leave your spouse unannounced. Let your spouse know when you're leaving the house or an event

15. Don't look at your spouse with condescending eyes

16. Don't laugh at your spouse, mock or ridicule your spouse

17. Don't rubbish your spouse's opinion, thoughts or voice even when you don't agree

18. Don't praise or compliment another more than your spouse. Don't tell your spouse why can't he/she be like so and so

19. Don't belittle a gift your spouse gives you or an act of service your spouse does for you

20. Don't ignore your spouse. Don't fail to show up when you said you would, unless for a valid reason which you communicate

21. Incase you couldn't pick up your spouse's phonecall when he/she called you or you couldn't reply to his/her text; let your spouse know why

22. Don't side with your family or friends to the point your spouse feels disowned

© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde