First: When is libido considered “too high”?

 

High libido becomes a problem when it causes:

• Difficulty focusing on daily tasks

• Using sex/masturbation compulsively

• Risky or impulsive sexual behavior

• Emotional distress

• Conflict with a partner

• Sleep disruption

• Feeling “controlled” by sexual urges

 

If you recognize these signs, the methods below can help.

 

🌿 HOW TO MANAGE AN OVERLY HIGH LIBIDO (Men & Women)

 

1. Identify Triggers

 

High libido often spikes due to:

• Stress (sex used as coping)

• Boredom

• Hormonal shifts

• Certain medications

• Lack of emotional intimacy

 

Awareness reduces compulsive patterns.

2. Channel Energy into Physical Activity

 

Exercise is one of the best ways to stabilize libido naturally:

• Strength training

• Cardio

• Yoga

• Cold showers after exercise

 

Physical exertion helps regulate dopamine and reduce sexual tension.

3. Create Structured Daily Routines

 

Too much unstructured time can feed excessive sexual urges.

Try:

• Scheduling activities

• Reducing idle time

• Setting boundaries around internet use

 

Routine prevents intrusive thoughts from taking over.

4. Reduce Stimulating Inputs

 

This includes anything that heightens sexual arousal.

 

Tips:

• Limit erotic content

• Avoid idle phone browsing at night

• Use web filters if needed

• Avoid conversations or media that trigger intrusive urges

 

This is not repression—it’s about balance.

5. Explore Non-Sexual Emotional Needs

 

Sometimes high libido masks unmet needs:

• Connection

• Validation

• Stress relief

• Boredom

• Loneliness

 

Fulfilling these decreases compulsive sexual desire.

6. Practice Mindfulness and Grounding Techniques

 

These help reduce racing thoughts and impulsive urges.

• Deep breathing

• Meditation

• Progressive muscle relaxation

• 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique

 

This strengthens impulse control.

7. Improve Sleep Quality

 

Sleep deprivation increases sex-drive-related hormones (dopamine & cortisol).

Try:

• Regular sleep schedule

• No screens before bed

• Relaxing evening routine

8. Address Hormonal or Medical Issues

 

Both men and women can experience spikes in libido due to:

• Thyroid imbalance

• High testosterone

• Medication changes

• Certain neurological or endocrine issues

 

If high libido is sudden or extreme, medical evaluation is recommended.

9. Communicate Openly with a Partner

 

If you’re in a relationship:

• Discuss mismatched libido

• Agree on boundaries

• Explore non-sexual intimacy (affection, touch, bonding)

 

This prevents resentment or misunderstandings.

 

10. Seek Professional Support if Needed

 

If the libido feels uncontrollable or causes harmful behavior, consider:

• A therapist (especially one trained in sexual health)

• Support for compulsive or addictive patterns

• Couples therapy if relationship issues are involved

 

This is helpful for both men and women—there is no shame in seeking support.

 

🔵 Additional Tips for Men

• High libido sometimes accompanies anxiety, testosterone spikes, or excessive porn use.

• Reducing screen time and stress often helps significantly.

• Exercise is especially effective for men, given testosterone circulation.

🔴 Additional Tips for Women

• Some women experience libido spikes during ovulation, PMS, or early pregnancy.

• Tracking the menstrual cycle can help predict and manage libido changes.

• If libido is very high and accompanied by mood swings → consider hormonal evaluation.

 

🧠 The Goal Isn’t to “Kill” Libido

 

It’s to help you:

• Feel in control

• Maintain healthy relationships

• Avoid distress

• Balance desire with real life