How to last longer during sex
If you are struggling with finishing too early, here are things you can do that may help.
1. Get support from your partner
Getting support from your partner can be an important part of the process. "To begin with, tell your partner that you want to try lasting longer, and ask your partner if they're interested in that," says Vanessa Marin, MFT, a licensed sex therapist in private practice.
This may help your partner understand what's going on and help you talk openly about any feelings of frustration. Once communication is open with your partner, you can discuss exactly what triggers your orgasm and try practicing the following methods.
2. Use condoms
Since premature ejaculation may be a result of hypersensitivity, using a condom is a simple solution that may make sex last longer. The condom forms a barrier around the penis that dulls sensation and may lead to delayed ejaculation.
3. Try desensitizing condoms
Desensitizing condoms come with numbing agents such as Benzocaine or Lidocaine that reduce sensitivity in the genitals and are designed to numb the penis during sexual activity
Although these numbing agents are safe and effective in countering premature ejaculation, side effects can include allergic dermatitis and penile gangrene.
4. Learn the pause-squeeze method
The pause-squeeze method can be done while having sex or masturbating and involves:
Having sex until you feel that you are about to ejaculate.
Then, pulling out and squeezing the tip of your penis for several seconds, or until the need to ejaculate passes.
And finally, continuing to have sex and repeating the technique as needed.
"The theory is you stop the flow, let the penis rest, and then go back at it to increase your time," Brahmbatt says.
Brahmbatt says that this can be one of the more difficult treatments for premature ejaculation because it takes a lot of self-control. Practicing repeatedly and communicating clearly with your partner may help ease the process.
5. Do pelvic floor exercises
Your pelvic floor muscles lie just below your prostate and your rectum, and just like other muscles, they can be strengthened through exercise. Experts believe that if pelvic floor muscles are too weak, it may be harder for you to delay your ejaculation.
To flex your pelvic floor muscles, act as if you are trying to stop yourself from peeing or passing gas and feel which muscles move. To tone these muscles, follow these steps:
Tighten the pelvic floor muscles – you can lie down or sit if this makes it easier.
Hold the muscles taut for three seconds.
Relax the muscles for three seconds.
Repeat the exercise as many times as needed.
To get good results, you should try to do three sets of 10 repetitions each day.
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